Beginner’s Guide to Prostate Massage

In the past couple of years, there has been a lot of talk about prostate massages. Since old taboos have started to fall, more and more men of all sexual orientations are interested in this type of sexual activity. Not only can the stimulation of the “male G-spot” increase pleasure, but it can also prove to be beneficial for one’s health. 

Prostate stimulation has been a part of many activities like pegging, prostate play, milking, and so on.   You have probably seen a beginners’ guide on the internet, but the information may not be enough. Lucky for you, we have prepared this short article with everything you need to know about prostate massage.

Locating the Prostate

Before we go any further, what exactly is the prostate? It is a walnut-sized gland between the root of the penis and bladder. Its role is to secrete fluids that are contributing to the volume of the semen. This excess fluid makes up for approximately 70% of the sperm volume.

Now that you know where exactly the prostate is, you will have an easier time finding it by yourself. Whether you are having a fun solo or with your partner, knowing what to do is essential!

Naturally, directly reaching the prostate is not possible without harming yourself, but massage through the rectum is easily achievable. Inserting a finger into the rectum almost four inches deep will allow you to feel a rounded lump near the root of the penis. That’s the prostate. 

As you can imagine, it might take you some time, so take it slowly and don’t rush anything. Many recommend using water-based or silicone lubricant before trying anything. Once you’re there, massage the prostate using either back and forth or circular motion. You can also apply a slight pressure on it to reach an orgasm. 

For people who are not into anal penetration or anal play, they can try massaging the prostate from the “outside” or via the perineum. The perineum is a part of the body between anus and scrotum. 

What Does Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?

One of the main reasons for the sudden interest in prostate massaging is the pleasure that comes with it. Namely, it can result in an orgasm that is rather intense compared to the regular one. We already mentioned that the prostate serves to increase the volume of semen, and by gently massaging it, the person can have a greater release. 

Whether you massage it for pleasure or to increase to semen volume, there is no doubt that your sexual experience will be exceptional.

Some describe the sensation as localized, but sudden. On the other hand, some explain that the feeling cannot be tied to a specific part of the body, and that it arrives in waves. 

All people are different. Therefore, some might like self-practice, while others enjoy a partner’s touch. The same applies to the amount of pressure involved, so feel free to experiment either by yourself or with your partner to maximize your sexual pleasure. 

Whatever your experience may be, one thing is certain — it will be different than the genital orgasm. The feeling arrives from inside of your body, and it can be uncontrollable. 

There are so many different ways you can try. Who knows — you might find something that you’ll really enjoy. After all, it doesn’t matter if you use your finger, a butt plug, or any other sex toys — you will love it anyway!

How Can Prostate Massagers Help?

If you are looking for something more, you’ll be delighted to know that there are special toys designed for prostate massage. The main reason why this might be a good idea is that these toys have a single goal, to help men achieve prostate orgasm. 

Similarly to some dildos, these toys can reach that special spot and stimulate it using vibrations. The person controlling the vibrator can choose the intensity, which can go from “barely a tickle” to ecstasy, depending on which one you like.

Naturally, they come in all shapes and sizes, and the materials are safe for use, so you won’t have to worry about potential problems. Depending on your interest in anal play, you can find larger or smaller ones, ones working on batteries, some wireless models, and so on. If you are afraid of feeling cold steel inside your body, you can even get a toy that heats up! However, we are telling you that you would not want to miss out the new sensations with a prostate massager that you could experience.

In the end, it all comes down to what you like and prefer. If you don’t want to buy expensive toys, you can get simpler ones that don’t require batteries or chords. Some massagers are unique in shape, which can allow you to use them almost as a lever to reach the spot. 

For people who are not daring to try inside massage, some toys can allow you to stimulate the prostate from the outside. These toys apply pressure on the perineum so that you can have fun without penetration. 

Health Benefits of Prostate Massage

What many fail to remember is that prostate massage can be beneficial for your health as well. It’s a medical fact that using this method can help with painful ejaculations, urine flow, prostatitis, and sometimes even erectile dysfunction.

But even if you don’t have any health issues, a prostate massage can still make you feel good. The whole process of “milking” can improve erections and strengthen orgasm. Furthermore, it helps the body get rid of prostatic fluid, which can build-up in the gland. As a result, it can directly prevent enlarged prostate and inflammation.

Moreover, the massage can also improve the blood flow in the prostate, allowing it to create more fluid. With a healthy prostate and circulation, a person can lower the chances of getting prostate cancer as well. 

Stimulating the male G-spot (or P-spot) can also help men reach a “full-body” orgasm. And, as many claim from different sex forum, experiencing one can be very relaxing and serve as a stress relief. 

Frequency of Prostate Massage

Now that we covered how and why, let’s talk about frequency. For a healthy prostate, one massage once per month is enough to reduce the risk of prostate cancer. On the other hand, people that have a swollen prostate can do it once a week. Fortunately, if you are into this, you can do it as many times as you like. 

For some, this is an integral part of intercourse. Indeed, some can freely massage their prostate every time they have sex. That way, they can increase the sensation that comes with orgasm and improve it. 

However, if you practice this often, you should be extra careful when massaging yourself or your partner. Since the whole area that you massage can be rather sensitive, and there are a lot of nerve endings, the last thing you need is to cause injury. Make sure you use lube, and if you are gentle enough, you can do it as much as you desire. 


While it has been taboo for many years, today, people are removing shackles and admitting that they enjoy prostate massage. There are so many ways to stimulate the P-spot, and you can try anything from fingers to specially designed toys. For those of you who are uncertain whether they want to try anal play, the good news is that you can find toys that enable you to massage your prostate from the outside. 

That way, you can have fun and improve your health. Prostate massages have been a part of medicine for ages. After all, they can improve erections, ejaculations, and lower the risk of prostate cancer. 

Just remember to take it slow and be gentle with yourself or your partner. Avoiding any possibility of unwanted injury is crucial!